Do you rerun memories about happy moments you and he spent together, sharing warmth and professing tenderness? Do you then wonder how those joyful times suddenly evaporated? Now you're sitting on love's doorstep, chilly and heartbroken, craving the affection you once shared. Turns out that Romeo decided it was time to move on — without you. Ouch.

Here are some tips to nurture your dignity and get through the pain of being dumped. Even if you've been given your walking papers, you can hold your head high and behave gracefully. Here's how:

Mourn and move on
Get him out of your system. Pour your frustration on paper by writing a journal or making a collage. If you've got it bad, make a voodoo doll or burn photos. But don't insist on remaining friends or hunker down waiting for reconciliation. "Chances are, he'll dump you again," says Caren, wo learned her lesson the hard way. "I was dumped three times by the same guy. I felt like Lucy and Charlie Brown with the football."


Get busy with something else
Exercise, laughter and other connections can soothe and restore you. Jenna says the best strategy is to get busy, and remind yourself you have a life without him. Go to a spa, visit old friends, even go to the zoo. "Resist the urge to sit around the house with a box of Hohos listening to sappy love music that reminds you of him while wearing the same old pajamas for three days," she advises.

Look to future romance
Today's disappointment just makes it all the sweeter when you do find a win-win connection. Diana had been devastated when Mr. Right said he no longer loved her. "It took months to finally end things because I kept humiliating myself by calling him at all hours," she said. Years later, he tracked her down and wrote that he couldn't stop thinking about her. But she had gotten back into circulation, and made a new life rich with love. So she knew just how to reply: "I emailed him my wedding picture with a one-word response: Thanks!"

 

 

profess
[v] 表示

 

collage
[n] 抽象拚贴画(用报纸、布、压平的花等碎片拼合而成的)

voodoo
[n] 伏都教(一种西非原始宗教),伏都教徒

vt.施伏都巫术迷惑

hunker
[v] 盘坐

 

sappy
[adj] 树液多的, 精力充沛的

 

How to get dumped gracefully

 

如何顺利地摆脱失恋的阴影

 

        Do you recall memories about happy moments that you and he spent together, sharing warmth and expressing tenderness? Do you then wonder how those joyful times suddenly evaporated? Now you're sitting on love's doorstep, chilly and heartbroken, craving the affection you once shared. It turns out that Romeo decided it was time to move on — without you. Ouch.

        Here are some tips to nurture your dignity and get through the pain of being dumped. Even if you've been jilted, you can still hold your head high and behave gracefully.

Here's how:

Firstly, Mourn and move on

Get him out of your system. Pour your frustration (relieve your feelings) on paper by writing a journal. If you've got it bad, make a cursing doll or burn photos. But don't insist on remaining friends or waiting for reconciliation. "Chances are, he'll dump you again," says Caren, who learned her lesson the hard way. "I was dumped three times by the same guy. "

Next, Get busy with something else

Exercise, laughter and other connections can soothe and restore you. Jenny says the best strategy is to get busy, and remind yourself you have a life without him. Go to a spa, visit old friends, even go to the zoo. "Resist the urge to sit around the house listening to emotional or sad love music that reminds you of him while wearing the same old pajamas for three days," she advises.

Finally, Look to future romance

Today's disappointment just makes it all the sweeter when you do find a win-win connection. Diana had been devastated when Mr. Right said he no longer loved her. "It took months to finally end things because I kept humiliating myself by calling him at all hours," she said. Years later, he tracked her down and wrote that he couldn't stop thinking about her. But she had already made a new life rich with love. So she knew just how to reply: "I emailed him my wedding picture with a one-word response: Thanks!"

 

                                                                                                                     Joycelin